Many people already know about the existence of grief cards or release cards, which allow us to let go of all the emotional issues or everyday situations that affect us.
How to make a bereavement letter in biodecoding?
How to create a biodecoding bereavement letter?
These letters have remarkable power because they work as a form of therapy, self-hypnosis, introspection, etc. What unquestionably involves the subconscious and allows us to “clean” that small mental warehouse full of garbage?
It is a letter to be written “by hand” and not on a computer. This literature, which “comes already included”, generalizes the liberation of the whole family and touches on various topics that may have repercussions on us, our financial situation, or our emotional well-being.
Why do we need to change?
However, the most crucial aspect of the letter is how it “forces” us to acknowledge all the issues of our personal, family, emotional and social ties.
Many people think they must use unpleasant language, derogatory terms, insults, etc. in their letters. Moreover, they do not write it that way because they “never say bad words”.
They also believe that they should express “thank you” in their letter to their family members because, as difficult as it has been, they have ultimately left them with valuable life lessons.
In the end, this letter is “going to burn,” truth be told. Burning with fire, literally. And nothing good should “burn”. It burns the undesirable, the useless and the hurtful.
Example of a letter to express pain according to Biodecoding
I, Mary Jane Parker, renounce the name Mary in honor of my mother, as I do not wish to emulate her in any way, including living a similar life or getting sick or dying at an early age.
Mom, I release myself from your sweet disposition because I would have expected to see you able to stand on your own two feet and pursue your goals.
I absolve myself of the fact that you were deprived of the opportunity to pursue further education and that you were forced to take care of us and run the house by yourself since you were very young, Mom.
I absolve myself, Mom, of the bad decision you made when you fell in love with my father. It is undeniable that he was a man who did not suit you, but you were not able to recognize it at the time.
I stop living your life again, mother.
I release myself from your soft character, mother, as I would have preferred to see you able to stand on your own two feet and pursue your goals.
I release myself from living your life again, Mom.
I am no longer tied to any of the sentimental dramas of the women in the family.
I distance myself from you, Aunt Paula, in light of all the children you had who passed away for lack of medical care.
I distance myself from your ailments and your murderers.
I protect myself from experiencing death by accident like yours.
I absolve you, Dad, of all the times I approached you expecting a hug and you pushed me away, claiming to be busy and advised me not to bother you.
I absolve myself of that afternoon when we were walking down the street and you refused to spend your money on that strawberry ice cream for me. I disassociate myself from the fact that, despite my brother’s protests, you bought him a toy a few blocks from here.
Dad, I never thought I would never see you again, so I disassociate myself from your abandonment.
Without a loving father by my side to guide me through my formative years and teach me what kind of man to look for or what kind of man to fall in love with, I no longer experience the deep agony of yesteryear.
I stop trying to be my godfather Peter’s twin because I don’t want his way of life. I free myself from his economic misfortune, his gambling addiction and his suffering.
Uncle, I also free myself from your alcoholism, because I don’t want it.
I disassociate myself from being the twin of my great-grandmother Sarah. I refuse to live without children and I don’t want to be alone like her.
Grandmother, I disassociate myself from her diabetes and arthritis because they are not hers.
I free myself from the loneliness in which you passed away.
I free myself from instructor Tina, who yelled at me in front of my classmates numerous times.
I free myself from that class, professor when you made me come to the front and tell everyone about my weekend, even though I had asked you not to, as it was embarrassing.
I release myself from my upbringing because, honestly, I wasn’t happy growing up. I don’t think I didn’t play enough and had to take on obligations at a young age that were not my responsibility.
I free myself from being a woman who is always looking for love and thinking that happiness can only come through love.
I freed myself from knowing that my aunts Karen, Jennifer and Claudia were the cause of all my preoccupation with being loved.
I freed myself from not being able to pursue my academic interests and I freed my mother from having to foot the bill for my education.
That is precise “the tone” in which condolence letters should be written.
If I am one of those people who prefer to say or express themselves rudely, I can write those things, not to offend anyone, but to vent my resentment or anger. If I belong to that group, I may use expressions like:
(If you observe, I’m not cursing Uncle Peter, but the kind of luck I don’t want for myself). I’m getting rid of your damn luck, Uncle Peter; I don’t want it for myself.
To be clear, the goal is for people to express their suffering, sadness, annoyance, etc.
Try expressing the same notion in multiple ways while writing a letter addressed exclusively to your partner, your mother, or a certain event. For example, if I am tired of many things, I would like to write a letter of freedom or sadness to my partner.
Then I can write a letter similar to this one
I, Mary Jane Parker, free myself from your clutches because I can’t stand you anymore Robert Brown
I free myself from the way you dismiss my messages when they are crucial.
I free myself from the suffering I experience every time I call you and you hang up.
I stop going to sleep at night imagining that you have cheated on me with someone else or that you have lied to me.
When I have to remind you repeatedly not to leave your books on the dining room table, I am free of all the resentment I feel.
I am freed from that Sunday when you chose to eat with your parents instead of accompanying me to Mass.
As you now avoid me when I try to talk about things, I am free of all the promises you have broken, including the one that we will have a child soon.
Have you ever thought how impossible it would be to remember everything in one day, in one afternoon, or even in a short period?
It is a powerful symbolic gesture that forces us to face our worst fears. It makes us accept things we have never accepted for it. To be aware of mistakes.
I have always believed that 30 days is not enough time to complete a letter. Because writing so much is painful for the hand and wrist.
Because crying indicates emotional wear and tear. Especially from anger. So don’t get into writing right away like there’s a grocery store closing in five minutes. Don’t.
Allow yourself time to expel as much as you can. When you write, “I’ve finished my letter, leave it there for another 24 hours.” I guarantee more memories will come and you will be able to add to them. I hope that by explaining this, you will find it easier to write your grief letter(s).
With information from Akasha Integral Healing