Will I be a bad person? Sometimes we somehow cause something unpleasant to ruin us instead of trying to change it into something great or learn from it. How? This happens because we are not able to respond to the circumstance in the best possible way.
I would like to stop causing problems
It is true that it is challenging and that many individuals tend to be destructive. But you must consider these mindsets if you want to stop being destructive if you are fed up with self-destruction and if you want to form more realistic views about reality and yourself.
Avoid being disastrous
People who are destructive place a lot of importance on small things.
For some reason, they seem to constantly perceive the worst-case scenario. As a mother, you may assume the worst if you contact your child by phone and he or she doesn’t answer.
You will see visions of disappearances, misfortunes, murders, kidnappings, etc. Although it also depends on the context, this can occasionally be ridiculous and exaggerated. However, most of the time what we can imagine is greatly exaggerated and should not even be a concern.
You exaggerate the bad
Related to the above, negative people tend to greatly exaggerate things and, as a result, the positive rarely receives the respect it deserves.
States of anxiety and sadness can occasionally result from this condition when the bad is always emphasized and the positive is rarely present.
Indeed, we are always attracted to the negative, as no one likes to experience a bad circumstance. But to what extent is it horrible?
Do you think you are aware of what others think?
This is quite risky because you will often be wrong.
Do you honestly consider that you can read other people’s minds? Although you may assume that what they say has a double meaning based on your analysis of their body language and the words they use, you are usually wrong.
You have no control over what others think, so you can never feel confident in that knowledge. Everyone has thoughts going through their head that are private to others.
Stop pretending you can read people’s minds; you might be worrying about things that don’t exist.
No one is perfect
Sometimes destructive people make the absurd claim that they are experts in virtually everything, which is impossible.
Each person is unique and has unique talents and flaws. It is impossible to aspire to perfection or be an expert in all things.
You are imperfect because you are who you are. It is beneficial if you begin to see mistakes as opportunities to learn more and improve, rather than as roadblocks and obstacles that life puts in your way to make you feel bad and prevent you from accomplishing your goals.
Get rid of the “shoulds”
Should I? No, go ahead and do it.
Many people have the “shoulds” in their heads, but are too afraid to start working and acting on what they are thinking.
While it is true that we should consider our actions carefully before we carry them out, not acting on our “shoulds” will only lead to frustration and a sense of unrealized potential. Why does this happen?
Because there are unbreakable laws and insurmountable obstacles in the minds of destructive people. However, that is what they assume.
You decide what the world should or should not be. There is no set way of doing things. Your life, your path, your goals and your achievements are unique to you.
Avoid blaming others
Sometimes those who are destructive endanger others as well as themselves.
Do you think badly of yourself? Have you ever made a serious mistake? Don’t blame others because they are not to blame. This only shows your total lack of responsibility to take responsibility for your faults.
We can’t always change others, but perhaps you haven’t realized that the only person you can change is yourself. Trying to influence another person can only lead to frustration and a waste of energy.
Don’t point the finger at others; instead, make an effort to change your self-destructive attitude. Everything that makes you feel bad, even the idea that the world is out to get you, is a figment of your imagination. Change course.
The first step is to determine whether or not I am a destructive person because it is challenging to be aware of it all. Once I recognize this habit, I must begin to modify my thinking and behavior patterns, such as blaming others, overreacting and not noticing the good things in life.
With information from Tibet’s Corner