Do you know someone who always talks shouting, no matter if they are in a good or bad mood? They use that high pitched tone to get the attention of others, but all they manage to do is annoy, hurt and overwhelm the people they are talking to.
Can’t stand someone who is yelling at you? Apply these 4 steps!
Dealing with them can be very challenging, as they often use their way of speaking to impose their opinions and put pressure on others. However, there are four basic steps to handle people who talk this way – apply them and you’ll see the annoying tone fade away!
Want to handle a person who is yelling at you?
The first thing you should do is speak up and tell this person who is yelling that his or her way of talking is getting to you.
Many people yell without realizing it, they have simply adopted that behavior as a habit and no one has let them know how uncomfortable it is for others. But if you let them know, there’s a good chance they’ll stop.
But sometimes, there are people who are stubborn and won’t listen, even if you’ve told them that the way they talk affects you.
If talking directly to them doesn’t work, please ask them to stop speaking in a raised tone. It’s not about provoking an argument with that person, you simply have the right to be treated with respect. Are you speaking in a high tone yourself?
You must demand
You are going to get those who don’t seem to listen, even after you have spoken to them and asked them to stop speaking in a raised tone.
In this case, it’s important to be more assertive and demand respect. You can say something like “I demand that you don’t yell at me, I don’t like that kind of talk.” Unfortunately, yellers stick to their behavior and only yell more with those who allow them to do so.
Time to leave
If after applying the first 3 steps, the person is still yelling, it is time to make a more drastic decision. Few people get to this point.
You simply don’t have to put up with anyone’s yelling. You can walk away and find something more productive to do. Leaving them alone to reflect may be more effective, like when a child realizes that their tantrum isn’t working and changes their behavior.