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How do you fight with your loved ones?

If the problem is between you and I'll fix you and me. It is prohibited to involve others or discuss in the presence of others.

When there are witnesses in the dispute grows ego, pride swells, if the aim is not to solve a particular problem but to demonstrate to the spectators who is stronger and dominant. A physical or mental control will motivate us, without realizing it, to try to maintain a certain image and it will block the simplicity and humility essential to reach a deal with who really matters. From experience of several psychologists, the three main factors that cause marital breakdown are alcohol, infidelity and the involvement of the political family.

The affection and loyalty are non-negotiable concepts therefore strictly prohibited from making threats terminals.

In all human relationships it seeks lasting must be something untouchable, something that can not under any circumstances enter the discussion table: love. The couple can negotiate anything, fighting fiercely to resolve differences, but always protected under a steel hood shielded the concept of love, it will not be harmed with the results. Threats like "If you do not change over me" or "I must warn you that if we do not log a divorce" or "what you said just killed my love for you", leads the discussion from becoming dangerously terminal.

It is prohibited to take extreme attitudes. If the person loses control, must move away, but never do scenes that make it unreliable for long.

When Einstein was asked whether there was a deadly weapon against the atomic bomb, he said yes, he had a very powerful and infallible: La Paz. All human beings possess an arsenal of high caliber that under no circumstances should be used with our loved ones. These weapons are: yelling, hitting, cursing, breaking things, swearing, insulting to the families of the other, slam doors, getting drunk, committing adultery. These resources are hurt and lose sight of what is discussed. The parties focus on returning their spears for the sole purpose of hurting the opponent. The extreme attitudes are like a poison that damages the relationship forever.

It should discuss one thing at a time

When angry on the table will only combat the issue that caused the negative emotion. When you do not know how to fight is very common to begin demanding a theme of "A" and end up arguing a "Z" totally different, having spent twenty-seven paragraphs, all unrelated, some hurtful, others inconsistent, others extremely stale, but all given for injury to the opponent and make him feel guilty of everything bad happens between them. A discussion and has neither head nor tail, the original case is complicated and distorted to the extent that the couple feels angry and the lawsuit has no solution.

Prohibited stay with outstanding accounts, if something is not serious enough to be discussed at the time, must be tolerated forever.

When departing must not brought it up issues that are gone, already discussed and that it has never revived. Doing that is like sticking your finger in old wounds. If the matter is serious, you should talk to the person what bothers us and leave well established that the love we have we are willing to tolerate. That is the best strategy for a relative change, which is based on the premise that we will continue to change but not loving. Sensing that he, in turn, eventually also want to give us pleasure.

 
 Author: Last Chance / Carlos Cuauhtemoc Sanchez 

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